Handout 30.1 (concluded)
Reproduced from 50 Activities for Interpersonal Skills Training
Sue Bishop and David Taylor, HRD Press, Inc., 1991
Finally, if at a later stage you realize that a slight was intended, but that
you did not react at the time, it is not too late to challenge the comment.
When you meet that person again (or you may decide to initiate communi-
cation) ask her/him what was meant by the comment that you considered a
put-down:
“Yesterday you said…. What did that mean?
or
“I’ve just been thinking about what you said, and while I acknowledge
that I may have…I cannot accept what you said about my being
frivolous.”
Responding to put-downs should not be a way of winning or losing or
point-scoring over the other person. It is ...