four ways of fighting

a roadmap for effective arguing

Here's the Problem

Say you go to your teen with a request to do something, go somewhere, or “process” some issue you feel you need to “work through” with him. Either way you state your case in a kind and clear manner, hoping to ward off an argument. Your teen does not agree. You begin to feel defensive as your teen accuses you of being overprotective, overbearing, too strict, and the worst parent ever. It's tough not to get hooked. Let the battle begin!

Teaching your teen to resolve conflict in a respectful way is a life skill. What model does your family practice? Duking it out until everybody ...

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