Platitudes and “harmless” lies are an expectation that women are taught to abide by. They lay the foundation for keeping us small by controlling what we say and ensuring we stay “nice.” To be fair, men are expected to do some of that lying as well, just not to the extent that women are. They also receive less pushback if they don’t abide by these expectations.

However, there are some communication “rules” women exclusively are expected to follow. If we violate these rules, we receive predictable pushback. We know this intuitively. Most of us consistently adjust our behavior in order to avert the push-back. Consequently, ...

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