If you’re like me, learning the next technique will be difficult. It goes against what we were taught as children and how we’ve lived our lives. The technique is lying.
You’re going to have to learn to lie. I’ll explain.
One of the things that hinders problem solving is that problem situations can seem liked closed environments. The players, beliefs, conflicts, history, and goals appear to be set in stone, with no options.
Such rigidity, however, is usually an illusion. People, situations, and beliefs change. Bigger systems surround and interact with the system you’re operating in. There can be lots of room for movement.
If you free yourself from the perceived rigidity of the situation and see things from enough ...