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Achieve Your Goals by Andy Smith

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Deal With Problems

Any problem has a three-part structure, which gives you three ways to tackle it: change the situation, change how you interpret it, or change your response to it. Even if the first is not possible, the other two always are.

Stay Relaxed and Positive

Sometimes your mind’s attempts to solve a problem can actually help to keep the problem in place. For example, someone who has suffered a bad relationship break-up may find themselves pulling back emotionally when their partner gets too serious. This could result in the relationship breaking up – the very thing they were trying to avoid. Trying to solve a problem by continually turning it over in your mind may embed it deeper. The “solution focus” approach in therapy suggests ...

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