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Amazing Things Will Happen: A Real-World Guide on Achieving Success and Happiness by C.C. Chapman

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Chapter 26

Rules Are Like Rubber Bands

One question that comes up often when I am speaking to a group is, how did I know it was the right time to ______? The blank is sometimes filled in with start blogging, other times it is in reference to founding my own marketing agency, and once in a while it is about writing a book.

My answer is always the same, “Because no one told me I couldn’t.”

In every situation in life, there will be rules or standards that are in place. Ask why they are there, and sometimes the answer is because it is the way it has always been done. Those are the rules that really restrict creative thinking or expression, because many of them never get revisited or changed. And why would they? No one has ever questioned them.

If you want to be happier, you must bend the rules as much as possible in your favor.

Think about any rules that bother you. Now, think about all the ways that you can bend these rules without ever breaking them.

With rules, you have to realize that you can bend them only so far before something (or someone) will snap, and you’ll suffer a bit of pain from it. This is why thinking about them as rubber bands is crucial. We’ve all been stung by one that snapped when stretched too far.

Any teenager can tell you about a time he or she went too far when challenging his or her parents. We’ve all done it. Rebelling is accepted as part of being a teenager. But why do we outgrow this and decide to conform as we get older?

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