My Child’s a Genius! The perils of pushy parenting

Q: I try to constantly praise my son to make sure his self-esteem is high. Is this the right thing to do?
A: Getting the balance right with praise can be difficult to achieve. On the one hand, experts recommend that you acknowledge all your child’s positive behavior, while on the other hand, studies have found that by the teen years, children who have overinflated self-esteem are more likely engage in risky behaviors such as drunk-driving or driving too fast.

You can’t go wrong if you give genuine compliments and let him know exactly what you like about him and his behavior. However, try to avoid going over the top by creating in him a belief that he is better than everyone else or will always ...

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