Firm Friends Peer pressure and falling out

Q: She was top of the class. Why has my bright daughter stopped trying at school?
A: There are many possible reasons your daughter’s performance has changed; exploring these with her will help you pinpoint the problem. The issue may be peer relationships: Perhaps her academic success makes others look bad, or she’s constantly held up as a good example—a “teacher’s pet”—which can cause resentment. The desire to belong to a group of friends is strong, and your daughter may feel it is worth dropping her grades in order to fit in and be liked.

Alternatively, she may have found a peer group that encourages rebellion, and tasted the social pay-off for becoming a rule breaker and neglecting her studies. ...

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