Balance is B.S.

CHAPTER 9Breaking Out of Your Bubble: How to keep growing into the person you want to be

When it comes to the area of your “Self,” there's one more thing I want to talk about.

First I want you to feel stable because your pie has all the right pieces, I want you to be doing all the preventative work to protect your mental health, and I want your soul to be filled. But when all those things are in place, you probably still won't be satisfied. There's something else that high-performing women need in their personal pie.

I'm talking about growth and learning. When you stop learning, you stop living. I love learning. There has to be room in my pie for that. When I haven't been to any learning events for a while I'm not myself.

Learning doesn't have to mean studying from books: The aim is to get wiser. I don't think that people write down on their bucket list “I want to be a wise old man” (or woman), but if you're a career-driven type or an entrepreneur you'll have a curious mind. So learning is always important, but you need to define learning; it doesn't always mean reading a book or studying a degree or going to a Tony Robbins seminar.

Here's how I think of it:

Learning is anything that leads you toward the person that you want to be.

Everybody's version of this type of learning will look different, so I'm not going to tell you exactly how to pursue it. I only have a couple of recommendations for maximizing your learning and staying curious.

GET OUT OF YOUR BUBBLE

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