Balance is B.S.

CHAPTER 18Things to Do Because I Want To: Build your own blended life

This is a quick guide for how to use the ideas in this book. You can use the steps to map your own version of a blended life that delivers on the things you value most.

This isn't a miracle method, a program, or a set of rules. It's just a way to help you identify the things you value, list the areas of life you need to manage, and implement your unique opportunities for blending.

Just think of it as a way to write a to-do list of things you actually want to do.

THINGS TO DO BECAUSE I WANT TO: A STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE

1. Values Audit

Identify your values first, so that you know what to ditch and where to focus. Then you can make blending choices that will create a life that's aligned with what you value most.

• Reference: Chapter 5
• Exercise: “Values Audit”

2. Values Hierarchy

Now you know what you want—but the reality is, you can't always have everything you want, all the time.

Prioritizing your values gives you a more sophisticated understanding of how to manage your time and energy without getting burnt out.

I won't say you'll never feel guilt or regret when you have to choose one thing or another. Life isn't perfect and sometimes it's hard to get this right.

But you're much more likely to make decisions and come to a resolution faster. This beats the old method of wasting time deliberating and listening to unproductive voices bounce around in your head. Secondly, you'll start to love your decisions ...