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Be the Woman You Want to Be by Elisabeth Wilson, Infinite Ideas

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49. All by myself

If your relationship is feeling a bit flat, it doesn’t mean you need to find someone else, just the person you’ve been living with all your life: you.

Films, TV and pop songs brainwash us. Love, they assert, is all you need. Find the girl or boy of your dreams and you’ll live happily ever after. What tosh. If you look to your lover to fill aching gaps in your life you’ll inevitably be disappointed in him or her and your relationship. Overdependence and enmeshment breed contempt and self-hatred. A little absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Doing a few things alone makes you a more interesting partner, with more experience and adventures to share when you are together. Think of time apart as fertiliser to cultivate ...

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