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Beating the Workplace Bully

Book Description

Bullies aren’t limited to the playground. These days, they roam our offices and can be found everywhere from break rooms to boardrooms. They don’t steal your lunch money, but they can make your work life a living hell—and even ruin your career.

Whether the bully is a boss or a coworker…whether you’re the target of manipulation, intimidation, verbal abuse, or deliberate humiliation, Beating the Workplace Bully will show you how to fight back. Filled with exercises, assessments, and real-life examples, this empowering guide helps you recognize what’s been making you a victim...and reveals how to:

    • Avoid typical bully traps
    • Remain aware and in charge
    • Move past your fear
    • Calm yourself in any confrontation
    • Keep your dignity intact
    • Build confidence
    • Handle sneak attacks
    • Strengthen your resolve
    • Understand the steps that your employer or supervisors can take to address the issue
    • Combat cyberbullying
    • And more

    With this practical, personal coaching program in your corner, you can reclaim your power—and defeat the office bully once and for all.

Table of Contents

  1. Cover
  2. Title
  3. Contents
  4. Foreword by Gary Namie, PH.D.
  5. Acknowledgments
  6. Introduction: Intimidated No More—You Can Do It
  7. Chapter 1 Are You a Bully Magnet?
  8. Chapter 2 You Can Run, but You Can’t Hide: Bullies Don’t Go Away on Their Own
  9. Chapter 3 Doormats Can Change: Here’s What It Takes
  10. Chapter 4 Wounded Rhinos, Shape-Shifters, Character Assassins, and Other Bullies
  11. Chapter 5 It’s Your Choice: To Confront or Not to Confront
  12. Chapter 6 Put on Your Game Face: Don’t Play by the Bully’s Rules
  13. Chapter 7 The Eight Most Common Bully Traps and How to Avoid Them
  14. Chapter 8 How to Overcome the Bully’s Favorite Weapon—an Outpost in Your Mind
  15. Chapter 9 Countering Bully Tactics and Bully Speak
  16. Chapter 10 Turn the Tables on a Bully with One Easy Move
  17. Chapter 11 Create the You Who Won’t Knuckle Under
  18. Chapter 12 How to Silence the Angry, Aggressive Jerk
  19. Chapter 13 How to Handle a Scorched-Earth Fighter
  20. Chapter 14 Defusing the Silent Grenade
  21. Chapter 15 Seeing Through the Shape-Shifting Mr. Hyde
  22. Chapter 16 Pierce the Facade; Topple the Narcissist
  23. Chapter 17 Take Down the Rhino Before It Charges
  24. Chapter 18 Undoing a Character Assassin’s Wounds to Your Reputation
  25. Chapter 19 The Newest Character Assassin: The Cyberbully
  26. Chapter 20 How to Survive the Bully Boss
  27. Chapter 21 Handling the Bully Employee Without Getting Burned
  28. Chapter 22 Nine Essential Strategies for Creating Your Game Plan
  29. Chapter 23 The Right Way to Ask Managers and Others for What You Need
  30. Chapter 24 Anger, the Bully, and You
  31. Chapter 25 What Every Leader Should Know About Bullying
  32. Chapter 26 What Human Resources Can and Should Do
  33. Chapter 27 Bullying Isn’t Illegal—or Is It?
  34. Chapter 28 The Times Are Changing: Have You?
  35. Index
  36. About the Author
  37. Free Sample Chapter From Talking to Crazy By Mark Goulston
  38. Copyright