Chapter 19
Ten Ways to Find Out About Someone Without Asking
In This Chapter
Observing the signs
Determining the meaning
So, you’ve seen someone who’s caught your eye. Although she’s interesting enough to investigate, you don’t want to pump your friends for information at this stage. What do you do? Pay attention.
You have two eyes, two ears and one mouth. Use them in that order and you may discover what qualities this person possesses that float your boat or ring your bells, without you giving your game away.
Observing Eye Movements
Do they flash? Do they flicker? Are they dull and dreary? Turn to the eyes, the gateway to the soul, as your first point of reference.
No matter how much your mouth churns out information, your eyes reveal more. Eyes that turn downwards like Antonio Banderas’s give the impression that the person is kind, trustworthy and caring. The Spaniard’s combination of soulful eyes and strong physique is swoon-inducing. Daniel Craig’s steely blue eyes and bronzed six-pack have a similar effect. Fans wiggle in their seats when Hollywood stars Bradley Cooper and Matthew McConaughey step onto the red carpet. Through their carefully orchestrated eye movements, this generation of heart throbs projects an image of hot and sexy men of steel. Like most mature members ...
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