3 Three Ways to Say No to Your Boss

by Paige Cohen

How often have you heard the job advice: “Say yes to everything”? The idea is that the more work you take on, the greater ambition you’ll show and the faster you’ll move ahead in the organization. This wisdom was passed down to me through many generations—mentors, teachers, bosses, senior colleagues, and parents. Early in my career, I made them proud. I rarely, if ever, turned down a task.

I had an endless to-do list and spent late hours at the office paying my dues. Who cared if I was completely burned out and had no idea what I enjoyed or wanted to do? I was blessed with endless “opportunities.” I was showing off great skills, like organization and efficiency. I was a yes person—the best ...

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