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You gain strength, courage, and confidenceby every experience in which you reallystop to look fear in the face. You must do thething which you think you cannot do.
ELEANOR ROOSEVELTYou Learn by Living, 1960
In my work with clients, I have been amazed at women’s depth of denial when things are bad. Women have said to me as we begin our work together that the term “crisis” doesn’t fit their experience, or they feel “uncomfortable” using the word. Then they go on to describe deep pain, fear, a sense of isolation, hopelessness, and a host of other agonizing emotions. Women might say, “I’m just going through a bad patch” or “I’m having a hard time right now,” but when they feel safe, they begin ...