Chapter FourRight in Love
Doing Right by Friends, Family Members, and Loved Ones
Positive Negative Space
Our moral legacy will be distinguished primarily by the manner in which we have treated others. Most of our moral obligations—some would say all—are obligations to other people. Doing the right thing, therefore, is going to be mainly a matter of doing right by those we come in contact with on a regular basis: our friends, family members, loved ones, and colleagues.109
But what makes it difficult to consistently treat others as we ought to treat them is that, often, our interests conflict. We want one thing, they want something else; or we both want the same thing at the same time and there’s not enough to go around. Balancing these conflicting ...