Reality checks (discussed in Chapter 6) are statements of truth or observations made by the coach that are meant to create an ah-ha or shift in the PBC's thinking or to reveal something that, although not obvious to the PBC, is plainly apparent to the coach or others. Reality checks can sometimes be stated as rhetorical questions. Certain topics come up more than others. The following is a common list of twenty reality checks that you can use in your coaching conversations:
You keep telling me that you trust your employees, but your micromanagement says you don't.
You are so competitive that you're even competing with your wife on vacation!
Your employees are so dependent on your approval, you're paralyzing them. ...