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How to Talk to Yourself with Compassion
by Alice Boyes
Quick Takes
- Give yourself a gentle and supportive nudge by asking what you need in this moment
- Use irreverence to challenge your beliefs
- Reframe a trait or tendency to take a more balanced view
- Identify your patterns of self-sabotage
- Borrow language from friends, quotes, or proverbs
- Write scripts for common scenarios
Often, we’re our own worst critic. When we feel anxious or frustrated, we talk to ourselves more harshly than we’d find acceptable from anyone else. I blew that presentation. Everyone on my team has such strong technical skills; I can’t follow the conversation. My kiddo is going to be so mad at me for working late again. We wrongly assume that criticism will motivate us ...
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