YOUR ENEMY IS THE PROVIDEROF ALL YOUR VIRTUE
And if someone I have helped,One for whom I had great hopes,Harms me without slightest reason,May I view him as my holy Guru!
Shantideva tells us that our enemies are the providers of our true virtue. When a person that you have benefited and you have placed great hope in hurts you, it is not that person who has hurt you. It is your wrong intent, wrong motive, and wrong projection toward that person that has hurt you.
You have projected onto that person. You have labeled that person “I have helped them, therefore they have to help me.” You have a secret expectation. So it is your projection ...