Diversity Done Right

4Did You See Something? Bystanders and Allies

Being the Change

I have so many personal stories and there are so many incidents I can speak to that have happened during the course of my lifetime that provide examples of the unbelievable ways in which humans can observe inhumane offenses against others and not respond. We can join in on offensive and violent group behavior and not feel guilt.

But to our credit as human beings, I've also seen individuals step up to the plate and demonstrate courageous behaviors in the midst of observing an injustice to another person. There are many societal examples of this and just as many occurrences in the corporate setting.

This chapter will present a number of scenarios and speak to my insights along with proposed theories on understanding bystander and group behaviors. I will start with a personal reflection that has a redeemable outcome; but beware, all of the stories shared here may not. They may spark rage in some, disbelief in others. My hope is that they will spark Ah Ha moments that will lead to a shift in some of your perspectives, and ultimately a change in behaviors. Change starts with you!

Be the change you wish to see in the world.

Flighty Experiences

My wife and I were getting on a flight to Connecticut to see our goddaughter, Monica Nia—Miss Illinois—compete in the Miss America pageant. We were sitting in first class, and the flight was full. One of the last passengers to get on the plane was a woman from India. She finally ...