Application updates are one part of the update routine, and host updates are the other. Your Windows Docker hosts should be running a minimal operating system, preferably Windows Server 2019 Core. This version has no UI, so there's a much smaller surface area for updates, but there will still be some Windows updates that require a reboot.
Rebooting the server is an invasive process—it stops the Docker Engine Windows Service, killing all running containers. Upgrading Docker is equally invasive for the same reason: It means a restart of the Docker Engine. In swarm mode, you can manage this by taking nodes out of service for the update period, without impacting service levels.
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