Being the Maid: Doing for Your Kids Is the Problem

Excuse the mess, but we live here.

—Roseanne Barr

Never do for a Child, what a Child can do for himself.

—Rudolf Dreikurs

If they can walk, they can work.

—Vicki Hoefle

In chapter 2 we identified the two types of bullet wounds, training and relationship wounds, and why Band-Aid tactics are ineffective and interfere with the long-term changes you are looking to make. Let’s explore how “training” (or the lack thereof) becomes such a major problem for many parents raising kids in today’s busy, overscheduled world.

Maybe it started out as a harmless way to help your child keep his life together or get outside to play with his friends or show up prepared for school and sports. Or maybe it started ...

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