Taking care of yourself and making a positive contribution to the group in which you are a part are the biggest influences on developing healthy self-esteem.
You can be the maid or you can be emotionally available to your children, but you can’t do both.
As I discussed in chapter 3, being the maid is not an effective way for parents to promote independence, responsibility, or mutual respect in children. I pointed out some of the myths and the good intentions behind mothers and fathers who want to do it all perfectly. In this chapter, I’ll talk about the many benefits to kids, to parents, and to the family when you quit your job as the maid. ...