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Finding Happiness by Virginia Murphy-Berman

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CHAPTER 2

The Story of Regret: The Cultivation of ­Self-Compassion

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need other’s approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.

—Lao Tzu

Abstract

In this chapter the concept of self-compassion is discussed. Self-compassion entails learning to deal with ourselves in a caring way and practicing letting go of overly negative and critical self-evaluations. Self-compassion is not the same as narcissism or overly high self-esteem, both of which involve some degree of negative, downward comparisons with ­others. When we are self-compassionate we affirm our common humanity with all people, and we are as accepting ...

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