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Get Things Done: What Stops Smart People Achieving More and How You Can Change

Book Description

Robert Kelsey's What's Stopping You? has become a self-help classic. His What's Stopping You? books have helped thousands of people worldwide overcome their limiting beliefs and bash through their barriers to success. Now Robert is back to help us defeat the obstacles that stop us achieving more in our everyday lives. Many of us have the greatest of intentions but find ourselves procrastinating, which results in low attainment and frustrated ambitions. Grounded in solid psychological research Robert helps us examine why we might have these tendencies and how to overcome them in order to feel more together, in control and on-top of everything.

  • Looks at the psychology behind why we procrastinate, in order to understand and change our behaviour, forming new, effective habits

  • Provides practical solutions to help us 'get things done' in real life situations including meetings, on the phone, with e-mail, looking for a job and starting a business

  • Includes techniques to improve focus and aid concentration

  • Examines how disorganisation is not innate and how we can learn processes that will allow us to be more effective

  • How to bring control to certain areas of your life and reduce stress and uncertainty

  • Get Things Done is emotional ergonomics for the organisationally-challenged individual - at home, at work, with themselves, and with others.

    Table of Contents

    1. Cover
    2. Endorsements
    3. Title page
    4. Copyright page
    5. Dedication
    6. Introduction: My Own Personal Chaos
      1. Process isn't a talent – it's taught
      2. Someone capable of achieving something
      3. Ever-decreasing circles
      4. Lost in a fantasy world
      5. The painful truth
    7. PART ONE: The Unproductive Mind
      1. 1: Organizational Incompetence
        1. Early-life conditioning
        2. Testing the marshmallow test
        3. Delayed gratification is developmental
        4. Freud's id, ego and superego
        5. Maslow's hierarchy of needs
        6. Texts that ignore the psychological issues
      2. 2: Conditions and Types
        1. Distractibility, impulsiveness and risk-taking
        2. The hunter of pre-history
        3. Normal human behaviour
        4. Women and ADD
        5. Asperger's syndrome – more than just low empathy
        6. Other disorders
        7. MBTI types
        8. Are types useful?
      3. 3: Procrastination, Clutter and Self-sabotage
        1. The toxic internal critic
        2. Self-belief: the missing ingredient
        3. The Procrastinator's Code
        4. Clutter – the not so benign symptom
        5. Snatching defeat from the jaws of victory
        6. Deserve levels
      4. 4: Motivation, Goals and Flow
        1. Motivation is the key
        2. Plan-beliefs replace self-beliefs
        3. Seven key steps for goal-setting
        4. Finding flow
        5. Flow is a pleasure
        6. Encouraging flow
    8. PART TWO: Tools and Resources
      1. 5: The Need for Desire
        1. Desire – the starting point of all achievement
        2. Definiteness of purpose
        3. Growing a vocation
        4. Suffering's meaning
        5. Finding faith
        6. Looking for the nugget
      2. 6: Planning for Freedom
        1. The Pomodoro Technique
        2. The rhythm of process
        3. So how, and what, do we plan?
        4. Begin with the end in mind
        5. Beyond the desired end result
        6. Mind mapping
      3. 7: Getting Started
        1. Point One: Love your workstation
        2. Point Two: Invest in the right equipment
        3. Point Three: Buy lots of stationery
        4. Point Four: Gather/capture everything
        5. Point Five: Do some filing
        6. Point Six: Finish that plan
        7. Point Seven: Write a checklist
        8. Point Eight: SWOT that strategy
        9. Point Nine: Focus
        10. Point 10: Make that call
      4. 8: Managing Time
        1. Our ideal day
        2. Dealing with interruptions
        3. Activity quadrants
        4. To time log, or not?
        5. Instead, keep a diary
      5. 9: Developing Good Habits
        1. Wasteful routines
        2. The habit loop
        3. Bad habit replacement
        4. Self-addiction and its consequences
        5. Building support
      6. 10: Making Decisions
        1. Decisions made at four levels
        2. Risk, benefits and costs
        3. Decision trees
        4. Avoiding ‘rule of thumb’ thinking
        5. The weighting dilemma
    9. PART THREE: Get Things Done …
      1. 11: … On the Phone
        1. Make calls work
        2. Establishing red zones
      2. 12: … Using Email
        1. A fantastic tool if …
        2. Avoiding email landmines
        3. Tackling the randomness of email
      3. 13: … In Meetings
        1. What's our purpose?
        2. The people
        3. Place is important
        4. Go prepared
        5. How do we get what we want?
      4. 14: … When Managing Others
        1. The power of delegation
        2. The task, the ask and the timing
      5. 15: … Beyond Work
        1. Develop themes for your life
        2. Points of entry
        3. Tackling financial phobia
        4. Money is our slave not our master
    10. PART FOUR: Other People
      1. 16: Persuasion and Influence
        1. Persuasion is a survival tool
        2. Winning influence
        3. Be liked
        4. Be believed
        5. Gaining influence from below
      2. 17: Dealing with Conflict
        1. Don't be a conflict coward
        2. The fruits of dealing with conflict
        3. Classic conflict errors
        4. Cognitive dissonance
        5. Bringing it to work
        6. Choose to defuse
      3. 18: Dealing with the Family
        1. The Satir Model
        2. Self-worth is a birthright
        3. Developing insight
        4. The family we create
        5. Work and families can be allies
        6. The joy of juggling
        7. Juggling productivity with our significant other
        8. Both men and women keep score
    11. Conclusion: ‘It's All Chaos’
      1. Chaos reigns
      2. The joy of winging it
      3. Act or be acted upon
      4. Are you ready?
    12. The 7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People
      1. 1. Procrastination
      2. 2. Avoiding direction
      3. 3. Blaming others
      4. 4. Obsessing about others' impact on us
      5. 5. Having a fixed mindset
      6. 6. Ignoring progress
      7. 7. Being derailed by every setback
    13. Bibliography
    14. About Robert Kelsey
    15. Index