Our final tool to help us get things done focuses on decision-making, not least because so many people are appalling decision-makers. Certainly, I was a terrible decision-maker and still have my battles in this respect, usually because I struggle to remove the emotions from my evaluations. Too often, I'm so concerned about my fragile self-esteem I cannot make cool judgements based on my long-term objectives.
No less disabling, I can almost instantly regret any decision. If the positives from any choice loomed large prior to the decisions; once made, it's purely the negatives that come into view. And this can lead to regret and what I call ‘mental paralleling’ in which I fantasize about the perfect and glorious alternative ...