Chapter 10

Stop Worrying About Your Employee’s Weaknesses

by Peter Bregman

Your son comes home one day, looks down at his feet, and gives you his report card. You smile at him as you open it up and look inside. Then your smile disappears when you see the F in math. You also see an A (English) and two Bs (history and science). You look down at him and ask, “What happened in math, Johnny? Why did you get this F?”

We want our kids to be successful at everything they do. And if they’re not good at something, we ask why they failed. We tell them to work harder at it. Understand what went wrong, focus, and fix it.


A great manager recognizes the strengths of their people and then puts them in position to win. A performance ...

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