How to Communicate Your Self-Care Needs to Your Partner

by Jackie Coleman

Quick Takes

  • Find a time to talk that is free of distractions and relatively calm
  • Use “I feel” statements to avoid blame or criticism
  • Listen actively—and be willing to compromise
  • Do regular checkups on your relationship and family

The morning rush: shower, eat breakfast, get the kids dressed, start the day. The workday: meetings, then calls, then more meetings. The evening: dinner, baths, bedtimes. Climb into bed, only to start over again. Lather, rinse, repeat.

As a working parent with a seemingly endless array of responsibilities, it can be hard to make space for yourself. The tendency to focus all your energy on work or family and put your own needs on hold is the ...

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