How to be Confident with NLP, 2nd Edition

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The confidence challenge

“A person can grow only as much as his horizon allows.”

John Powell, film composer

What you have discovered so far

I Truly confident people are fully aligned

from their purpose to their behaviour.

I Truly confident people have a bring-it-on approach to life.

I Confident people integrate confidence into everything they do.

I Confidence is a life style!

What you are going to discover

I How you experience each day will depend upon how you wake up,

and your commitment to using all the techniques and exercises

provided for you in this book.

I You can put all this into practice now with a simple short challenge.

Can you handle the confidence challenge?

1 We are calling it a challenge because this is the way we want

you to approach it. Something else to explore, and another

‘confidence win’ to add to all the wins you are already

experiencing.

2 We are encouraging you to create your own challenges, to

stretch and widen your horizons and take bigger leaps outside

your comfort zone.

3 If you have read this book and are a little overwhelmed trying to

think of which exercise to use for which situation, this challenge

will help you to be clearer about taking the next steps, building

your confidence day by day, hour by hour, and minute by minute.

4 To help you do this we have suggested a ‘workout’ to follow

from the moment you wake up each day, to the moment your

head hits the pillow at night.

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5 If you commit to following this workout every day for two

weeks we guarantee that you will feel increasingly confident

(and this will translate into more achievements and successes in

your life).

Confidence challenge – a daily routine

1 Preparation. First of all prepare your environment by placing a

confidence anchor somewhere in your bedroom where you will

see it the moment you wake up. You might like the idea of an

orange circle to remind you to step into your confidence

routine, or something with which you associate confident

feelings. The idea is for you to see this object as soon as you

awake and for it to remind you that today you are going to feel

more confident.

2 ‘Rise and shine’. Before you get out of your bed look at your

confidence anchor and tell yourself, in positively stated internal

dialogue, that today you are going to feel confident, regardless

of what the world has in store for you. Now think ahead to your

day and choose one scenario where you are going to be more

confident than you have been in the past. Focus on this event.

3 Get ready to take on the day. Now, as you carry out your

morning bathroom and breakfast routine, prepare yourself for

this event by running through the following checklist. Mentally

rehearse the event using the exercise ‘To embed and gain more

clarity around your well-formed outcome’ (page 187 of Chapter

10) with an orange circle (this should take you about 10

minutes).

(a) Check your posture. Keep your head up, stay relaxed and be

focused.

(b) Check your internal dialogue. Make sure it is positive.

(c) Be aware of any comparison you might make and stop it.

(d) No judging of anything. Just be curious to learn.

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