Learning Fundamental Skills for Loving

We know that attraction to others is not something you can force, and we assume that nature probably plays a big part in this. Yet, even when we are strongly attracted to someone, we know that attraction tends to decrease over time as the “newness” wears off (i.e., we become “used” to each other). We have also come to believe that our attraction decreases over time due to our lack of the knowledge and skills neces-sary to maintain passion and love for someone else. To maintain a commitment to anything requires having the skills and knowledge to keep nature from ruling and to keep “newness” alive.

One of the authors remembers the time when an elderly gentleman in a very old automobile that looked ...

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