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How to coach with NLP by Robbie Steinhouse

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13

RESOLVING INNER CONFLICT

“‘Pull yourself together’ is seldom said to anyone who can.”

Mignon McLaughlin, American writer and journalist

You will often find that clients seem incongruent over an issue, for example ‘I hate my boss, but I must be nice to her or I will get the sack.’ You will notice two ‘characters’ or parts emerging, one possibly angry and the other possibly scared. This uneasy mix of the two parts needs to be resolved. Being in this state of being pulled in two different directions by two different ‘sub-personalities’ is called being simultaneously incongruent.

In this chapter I shall present a process for dealing with these problems.

Parts Integration

The process begins with encouraging the client to sort the issue into ...

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