We like people who are decisive don’t we? People who are clear on what they think and believe. People who don’t dither or change their minds on a whim.

Focus, determination and confidence are all traits to be admired.

They’re all signs of strength. They’re traits I’m sure we all recognize every leader needs to possess in order to be a success.

And I agree totally with such a conclusion. But I also believe they could be the reasons for a person’s down­fall. They could be the reason why we don’t succeed with people.

Let me explain.

Focus could lead to being blinkered in your approach. Determination could result in a stubbornness to change despite ...

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