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Tying the Knot Across the Gap

KEY IDEAS

→ Secular/religious weddings are sometimes straightforwardly religious, sometimes secular, and sometimes a blend.

→ Some religious wedding elements join a couple to that religious identity, and some secular readings and songs contain specific renunciations of religion. These are best avoided when one partner is religious and the other is not.

→ Other religious or secular elements can be poetic, symbolic, or meaningful without those issues. (See the section titled “The Secular-Sacred, and the Sacred-Secular.”)

→ A secular wedding is not antireligious—it simply lacks specifically religious elements. (See the story about Nora and Kevin under “#2: The Secular.”)

→ A third tradition is often a good ...

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