Cultivating Honesty

To make sure that you are demonstrating this aspect of trustworthiness—that you’re consistently telling the truth as you understand it—start by getting a clear sense of whether you have a problem in this area. Think about feedback you’ve gotten at work and from friends or family. People generally won’t come right out and say they don’t think you’re trustworthy. However, they might say things like, “Sometimes I’m not sure if you’re telling me the whole story,” or, “You seem to change your mind a lot,” or, “I get the feeling sometimes you just go along to keep the peace.” These and other statements like them are all well-meaning, diplomatic code for, “I don’t trust what you say.” If you’ve heard this from others, I’d suggest ...

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