Learning from Experience

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Opening Up the Space

ONE OF THE CAPACITIES we try to build in this work is the ability to play with ideas and meanings as a way of opening up possibilities. If we are able to get a bit of distance from "Reality" with a capital R, we can begin to consider alternatives, to play with them and try them on for size. This flexibility depends on our ability to be present in the moment; to move more fully into the realm that both Bion and Winnicott describe as one of "being."

These theorists realized how important it is for the therapist to be present in the moment. This presence becomes a crucial reference point that helps to develop that capacity in the patient as well. Our willingness to confront uncomfortable moments in the work and to acknowledge ...