“This isn’t what I was expecting!”
You constantly hear that refrain as people describe their response to a set of experiences in a world that is rapidly changing, a world that doesn’t match the way things used to be. At the start of any conversation about what it’s like to move into this new phase of life, you’ll hear a long and varied list of things that people didn’t expect:
I didn’t expect to be divorced at my age—or to be beginning a new relationship.
I didn’t expect to be unemployed—or to have the opportunity to start my own business.
I didn’t expect my grown-up son to come back and live with me—or for me to have to go and live with my grown-up son.
I didn’t expect my 401k to be worthless—or to have ...