2. People Under Pressure

Pressure in human relationships can come from many different sources, but most often it comes from a divergence in the best interests of the parties to the relationship. That divergence might be real or perceived; it might have to do with ends or means or both. The interests at stake might relate to expectations, needs, desires, or all of the above.

Even under the best of circumstances, it’s difficult to keep the interests of two or more people in alignment for any extended period of time. Take a simple example: You and your spouse have a great relationship. You’re driving down the highway together. She’s late for an important business meeting, but you must use a lavatory ASAP. The divergence of your interests is likely ...

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