O'Reilly logo

Managing Anxiety with Mindfulness For Dummies by Joelle Jane Marshall

Stay ahead with the world's most comprehensive technology and business learning platform.

With Safari, you learn the way you learn best. Get unlimited access to videos, live online training, learning paths, books, tutorials, and more.

Start Free Trial

No credit card required

Chapter 6

Using Mindful Self-Compassion and Kindness for Anxiety

In This Chapter

  • Discovering how to practise loving-kindness
  • Reducing the need for perfectionism
  • Understanding how self-compassion is helpful

This chapter is about being kinder to yourself in a mindful way. When anxious, you're more likely to think negatively and berate yourself — for example, for not being perfect (despite the fact that no one is!).

The practices I describe – such as the loving-kindness meditations that are proved to reduce anxiety – can help you counteract this tendency, and lead to higher levels of well-being. And don't worry that this self-compassion is going to turn you into an egotistical monster because I also describe the importance of directing compassion to other people as well.

Understanding Loving-Kindness

Loving-kindness is basically the idea of evoking love toward every human being on the planet, including yourself.

The practice of loving-kindness helps generate a sense of friendliness toward yourself and others.

Generally, you achieve this sense of friendliness through practising loving-kindness meditations, which traditionally can be up to 45 minutes long. But in this section, I offer you a range of loving-kindness practices, directed to yourself and others, that vary in time. This flexibility makes practising loving-kindness much easier in today's busy world.

Accepting the importance of being kind to yourself

You may not realise that you're irrationally hard on yourself on a day-to-day ...

With Safari, you learn the way you learn best. Get unlimited access to videos, live online training, learning paths, books, interactive tutorials, and more.

Start Free Trial

No credit card required