What Does Self-Compassion Really Mean?

By Stephanie Harrison

One Friday morning, early in my career, an email popped into my inbox. It was a client, inquiring about a weekly report. With a dawning sense of horror, I realized that I had completely forgotten to make and send it.

I quickly pulled the report together and sent it over, expressing how sorry I was for my mistake. My client couldn’t have been nicer about it. Despite their kindness, my internal voice couldn’t stop berating me: “How could you have made this mistake? What’s wrong with you? I knew you weren’t cut out for this job.”

Think back to the last time you made a mistake or had a setback at work. How did you respond? If, like me, you were extremely self-critical, ashamed, and stressed, ...

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