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Assessment: A Structured Approach

On the day after Marj and Ken’s initial interview, Marj called and said they’d like to go ahead with the assessment. They both liked the idea that I would do a formal assessment, and liked my fairness—that I seemed to want to see both sides. Marj remarked that other therapists they’d seen seemed to take sides more: “It was usually my side they took—Ken can really be a pompous ass at times—but I think he picked up on their turnoff of him and that sunk the whole effort.”

When they arrived for their next appointment I told them I was glad they had decided to go ahead with the assessment and then began to explore how they felt about the initial interview and their impressions of me.

Ken took the lead, “I felt ...

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