Chapter 1

Wired for Belonging

The Innate Desire to Belong

The essential dilemma of my life is between my deep desire to belong and my suspicion of belonging.

— JHUMPA LAHIRI

A Tale of Three Colleagues

The annual holiday party at Munchester Industries is a raucous event. The company has about seven hundred employees, and for the holiday gala they all gather with their families in tow. The party has a huge buffet, an open bar, people dancing to the sounds of a DJ’s music, and a clown making balloon animals for the children. People are gathered in small clusters, either at tables or standing around chatting. On the surface this looks like any number of company parties we have all seen before. However, this year the party has a different tone, coming ...

Get Our Search for Belonging now with O’Reilly online learning.

O’Reilly members experience live online training, plus books, videos, and digital content from 200+ publishers.