THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN parent(s) and children is like no other. You know your child better than anyone does. There are things you know about her that are so familiar you may not even think about them. Some of the very answers you seek are right there in your memory. For purposes of this chapter, we will try to tap into that memory and your power of observation.

No one has a better opportunity to know a child than the parents she lives with. She will perform better for you because she feels comfortable. Unfortunately, she will also show you negative behaviors that she would never feel safe acting out in public. Much of getting to know her happens just by being with her day in and day out.

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