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Real Strength

Book Description

"One of the best books I've ever read on practical resilience."
-Miriam Akhtar, positive psychologist and author of What is Post-Traumatic Growth?


What do you do when life throws a curveball? Adversity is an inescapable part of life, but it's how you deal with it that really counts. Resilience is about using those challenges, however large or small, to reset your course and create the life you want.


Real strength is not just about surviving hard times, but thriving despite the challenges. Using the latest research and advice from experts in the field of wellbeing and resilience, Psychologies magazine will help you:

  • Feel more confident in your ability to overcome change
  • Tap into and build on the inner resilience you already have
  • React in a healthy way to problems and opportunities
  • Avoid the common pitfalls that rob you of your strength
  • Adopt new techniques to help you start getting stronger today

When life knocks you back, you need to tap into those reserves of strength and find a way to move forward again. You are strong, you are brave and you are about to take the first step.

"Essential reading for anyone who wants a step-by-step guide on how to challenge themselves and grow."
-Dr Tamara Russell, Director, Mindfulness Centre of Excellence

Table of Contents

  1. Foreword
  2. Introduction
    1. How to use this book
    2. The experts interviewed for 
real strength
    1. Chapter 1 What is real strength?
      1. Defining real strength
      2. Take the Test: What does real strength mean to you?
      3. Note
    2. Chapter 2 How are you feeling right now?
      1. The survival instinct: what is actually happening in our brain when we are under threat?
      2. How do we behave when under threat?
      3. The importance of building real strength right now
      4. The power of adversity: why going through sh*t is good for you!
      5. Take the Test: How do you deal with adversity?
      6. Note
    3. Chapter 3 Moving towards real strength
      1. Grow a growth mindset
      2. Can I develop or learn a growth mindset?
      3. The power of grit
      4. Are you ready and willing?
      5. Take the Test: How do you deal with uncomfortable feelings?
      6. Note
    1. Chapter 4 Are some people more resilient than others?
      1. 1. Identify and define your values
      2. 2. Discover your passion
      3. 3. Connect to your purpose
      4. Take the Test: How resilient are you?
    2. Chapter 5 Tackling change
      1. We’re wired for change – we need 
it for growth
      2. Why is change so stressful?
      3. It’s the transition, not necessarily the change, that’s hard
      4. Perception is everything
      5. Tackling uncertainty
      6. Maintaining real strength in the face of change
      7. Take the Test: How do you react to uncertainty?
    3. Chapter 6 Strength robbers
      1. 1. Chasing perfection
      2. 2. Being a catastrophist
      3. 3. Dwelling and rumination
      4. 4. Victim mentality
      5. How is learned helplessness a barrier to real strength?
      6. 5. Letting stress get to you
      7. How exactly does stress deplete our ability to be resilient?
      8. 6. Getting stuck
      9. 7. Avoidance and offloading
    1. Chapter 7 Manage your emotions
      1. Know yourself
      2. Harnessing your emotional agility
      3. Condition your thinking
      4. Note
    2. Chapter 8 The two Cs: 
compassion and connectedness
      1. The power of compassion
      2. The power of connection
      3. Note
    3. Chapter 9 Building on your resilience every day
      1. Encourage more helpful 
ways of thinking
      2. Grow some grit
      3. Beyond ‘real strength’ to 
‘super resilience’
  6. What Next?
  7. About Psychologies
  8. EULA