CONCLUSIONIt’s Time to Reinvent Masculinity

Reinventing masculinity is a humbling and audacious task.

We know that as well as anyone. While it’s been an honor to write a book about a better, updated way to be a man, both of us Eds have struggled along the way with masculinity issues ourselves. We shared stories with each other about growing up under the standard man-rules. Sometimes we laughed at ourselves. But sometimes we felt sadness, embarrassment, and shame as we recounted mishandled relationships and opportunities bungled because of self-doubts and fear.

We also had to admit that troubling aspects of traditional manhood still show up in our everyday life. Ed Frauenheim talked about losing his temper repeatedly with his wife and kids—classic ...

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