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Skills for New Managers, 2nd Edition by Morey Stettner

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Chapter 5Speaking Like a Leader

After two months as a manager, Barbara met with her friend Sally to get some feedback on her performance as a boss. Even though the two women started as aides in the same department, Sally now reported to Barbara.

“Barbara, you talk differently now than you did before you were a manager,” Sally said. “You sound a bit stiff, and your natural warmth doesn’t come across like it used to. It’s like you take everything you say so seriously.”

That in a nutshell is the biggest trap new managers face: they try to speak the way they think a boss “should speak.” That may mean adopting a deeper voice, giving unsolicited opinions, or issuing commands to display their authority.

Yet the best way to radiate power is to express ...

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