A loving relationship does not just happen: it is grown, with attention and work from both partners. Communication skills play a big part, alongside patient acceptance of personal differences.

Akey concept in the psychology of romance was developed in the mid-20th century by psychologist John Bowlby. According to his “attachment theory,” our childhood relationships and subsequent experiences combine to create different attachment styles, or ways of relating to a partner (see “Attachment styles and your relationship”). People with different styles can want very different things—and if we are looking for success in our romantic partnerships, ...

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