CHAPTER 27The Victims

The Fearful One

The Delicate Flower

The Victim

The Martyr

The Whiner

The Crybaby

The Chaos Creator

The Money Borrower

The Victims have erroneously learned from their parents, teachers, siblings, and others during their childhood that they have no power, can’t change anything, and shouldn’t speak up and voice their concerns. They see themselves as innocent bystanders and victims who can’t help but roll over when people who are more powerful want to mow them down and use them. Since childhood they have become a bundle of neurotic and sometimes contradictory traits—demanding of attention, passive, frightened, and yet not owning their power. They can guilt-trip you, make you feel like their problems are your fault, and make ...

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