CHAPTER 9 Kick Your Addictions, Return to intimacy

Dan Mahle

Iremember when I first discovered Internet porn. I was 17 years old. Fascinated by this world of unleashed sexual expression and fantasy, I couldn’t get enough of it. As I grew up and began exploring my own sexuality, I discovered just how different watching pixels on a screen was compared to the intimacy of making love with another human being. I thought I’d outgrow my porn habit over time. But I didn’t.

Porn had become an addiction. And, like most addicts, I was ashamed to talk about it or even admit it was a problem.

“Everybody watches porn,” I remember hearing. It seemed so pervasive and culturally accepted that having an actual conversation about it was a total non-starter. So ...

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