In 1975, when I was forty-one, my world came crashing down around me. I had been hunting at the ranch over Thanksgiving weekend with the Colonel and some business associates. On Sunday evening, I drove back to Houston and was just walking into my study to put down my gear when Fran came in and said, “Sit down, I’ve got something really important to tell you.”

I sat down, and she said, “Joe, I want a divorce. There’s somebody else that I love.”

It was a complete surprise to me. She had been taking a class at the University of Houston, had met someone in the class, and had been seeing him.

After we talked, she said, “I want you to leave the house tonight.” I don’t remember much about that conversation; I guess I was in a state ...

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