CHAPTER 9

The Dangers of Coddling: Helping Your Kids Develop Healthy Self-Esteem

Think back a decade. It is a balmy saturday afternoon in May. Your young soccer kids have just wrapped up three months of missed goals and consistent offsides, but they have enjoyed a lively season as a close-knit team. The players are meeting for an end-of-season pizza party to celebrate their camaraderie and persistence on the field. Faces covered in sauce and belches hanging in the air, the kids eagerly await the presentation of their trophies, ceremoniously granted to each of them. They lost most of their games and never even entered a tournament, but each gets a trophy because everyone is a winner.

Flash forward to today. Your children’s rooms are littered with ...

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